So today I said a prayer that I would be out of the box with a certain individual.
As fate would have it, I ended up sitting next this person in class today and yet there was no friction.
I ended up giving them a piece of gum which I believe was a symbolic gesture.
They took it very graciously and even complimented my earrings.
Interestingly enough they started writing a note and I freaked out for a second, thinking it
was to me. And was quite relieved when it was not an apology for mistreating me.
weird huh. Anyway I am obviously still working on this one....but its getting a little smaller anyway.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
build a bridge she says.....
Today I text my roommate about a particular guy and girl who drive me nuts when their together and just the sight of them together throws me into the box. My roommate says "maybe its time to build a bridge."
Honestly I think that its more just to connect with the roommate then the actual hating of these two parties, but I am extremely jealous.
I need to have the mentality that there is plenty to go around. There is no need for competition.
The funny thing is that there is so much more being in the box with me....I don't know why, and it makes my job and my calling difficult since we are dependent on each other.
But she has a point. Its going to be a lot harder later if I don't get over it than if dwell on it now.
Honestly I think that its more just to connect with the roommate then the actual hating of these two parties, but I am extremely jealous.
I need to have the mentality that there is plenty to go around. There is no need for competition.
The funny thing is that there is so much more being in the box with me....I don't know why, and it makes my job and my calling difficult since we are dependent on each other.
But she has a point. Its going to be a lot harder later if I don't get over it than if dwell on it now.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
the tale of the bald head
Dr. Ford shared this story in class today and it was really touching.
A father with a beautiful head of hair had many children who also had beautiful heads of hair.
One of his children was habitually late and missed curfew. The father fed up with his son's tardiness threatened his son that the next time he was late he would shave his head.
The son heard his father and was determined to get home and not miss curfew again. He knew this was a threat. He also was 16 and concerned with his appearance as most teenage boys are.
Well the next week circumstances beyond the sons control made him 5 minutes late. He was so upset about the situation. When he came in, there was his father standing with the clippers.
His son immediately pleaded with the Father and tried to explain the situation and the father didn't relent. He said that he had told the son what would happen if he was late and he was going to keep his word. He told his son to go into the kitchen.
The son not wanting to lose his beautiful hair, threatened his father that he would never listen to him again--he would go into drugs and alcohol. But the father pulled out a chair and told him that he was serious.
The father then took the chair and said, "I am going to keep my word and shave your head, but I am willing to go through this with you. So here, take the clippers and shave my head first." The son wasn't terribly excited about that. He thought of his fathers job and how he couldn't have a shaved head. He thought of his calling as bishop in church. He told his dad he was fine and he would take the punishment.
His father insisted and with tears in both their eyes the son and father shaved each others heads.
A father with a beautiful head of hair had many children who also had beautiful heads of hair.
One of his children was habitually late and missed curfew. The father fed up with his son's tardiness threatened his son that the next time he was late he would shave his head.
The son heard his father and was determined to get home and not miss curfew again. He knew this was a threat. He also was 16 and concerned with his appearance as most teenage boys are.
Well the next week circumstances beyond the sons control made him 5 minutes late. He was so upset about the situation. When he came in, there was his father standing with the clippers.
His son immediately pleaded with the Father and tried to explain the situation and the father didn't relent. He said that he had told the son what would happen if he was late and he was going to keep his word. He told his son to go into the kitchen.
The son not wanting to lose his beautiful hair, threatened his father that he would never listen to him again--he would go into drugs and alcohol. But the father pulled out a chair and told him that he was serious.
The father then took the chair and said, "I am going to keep my word and shave your head, but I am willing to go through this with you. So here, take the clippers and shave my head first." The son wasn't terribly excited about that. He thought of his fathers job and how he couldn't have a shaved head. He thought of his calling as bishop in church. He told his dad he was fine and he would take the punishment.
His father insisted and with tears in both their eyes the son and father shaved each others heads.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
seeing clearly I see clear.
Today I had an amazing experience that truly invited peace into a situation that with the wrong people could have been extremely destructive. I walked into a situation completely by accident that left me troubled, heart broken, and wanting a way to help the individual I happened upon.
I had the opportunity to sit through class with this individual and both of us were desiring to speak to one another and yet both somehow lacked the courage to summon the other. Finally I relented to the sense that the class was prodding through our discussions and the individual and I spoke for more than an hour after the class.
As we both opened up to each other our fears and concerns for the other, tears came from both our eyes and there was connection and compassion born right in front of our eyes.
We saw each other not just as people but as brother and sister and there was a special connection that only God could have initiated in that way that God brings two perfect strangers together and creates harmony. It waxes poetic in my mind the way that any individual could have been in my place and the story may not have had the outcome but God is in it and seeing clearly for him made it easy to see clearly for me as well. It was a revelatory and priceless experience that took two people looking for the good of the other.
I had the opportunity to sit through class with this individual and both of us were desiring to speak to one another and yet both somehow lacked the courage to summon the other. Finally I relented to the sense that the class was prodding through our discussions and the individual and I spoke for more than an hour after the class.
As we both opened up to each other our fears and concerns for the other, tears came from both our eyes and there was connection and compassion born right in front of our eyes.
We saw each other not just as people but as brother and sister and there was a special connection that only God could have initiated in that way that God brings two perfect strangers together and creates harmony. It waxes poetic in my mind the way that any individual could have been in my place and the story may not have had the outcome but God is in it and seeing clearly for him made it easy to see clearly for me as well. It was a revelatory and priceless experience that took two people looking for the good of the other.
Monday, September 29, 2008
I know where you're at.
I really like the classes I'm taking. This was on a movie about Henry Eyering. I was really touched by the story.
From my IDS class- Henry Eyring
Henry’s son took the car when he was 13 and then he crashed the car right through the front of their house.
He had to call his Dad….and instead of being angry, Henry responded with a story of when he was 13 he and his friend took the buffalo gun down from the shelf and told a young neighbor boy that if he didn’t hurry up and scurry off, that he would be in real trouble. Henry aimed and pulled the trigger and the gun shot. "Luckily he wasn’t a good shot." But then he said to the son…
I know where your at.
And he really showed empathy to his son.
If only we could all see people as people in the moment when we want to rage the most.
From my IDS class- Henry Eyring
Henry’s son took the car when he was 13 and then he crashed the car right through the front of their house.
He had to call his Dad….and instead of being angry, Henry responded with a story of when he was 13 he and his friend took the buffalo gun down from the shelf and told a young neighbor boy that if he didn’t hurry up and scurry off, that he would be in real trouble. Henry aimed and pulled the trigger and the gun shot. "Luckily he wasn’t a good shot." But then he said to the son…
I know where your at.
And he really showed empathy to his son.
If only we could all see people as people in the moment when we want to rage the most.
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